May Newsletter

I Can Life Coaching - May Newsletter Discovering and creating yourself I hope you are enjoying my newsletters and I love hearing your feedback on them.  Please let me know If there's anything in particular you would like to see in future editions. This month, I thought I would focus on Discovering and Creating yourself because it's so important with helping your self esteem and confidence.  Being happy with yourself as a truly wonderful and unique human being can work wonders on all different aspects in your life. Knowing your strengths and core values helps you define who you are so you can be more confident with your choices and decisions. There's a wonderful questionnaire I use to help people discover their strengths; clients find it so helpful to understand themselves and also understand others. There isn't a one size fits all as we all have a mixture of different personality traits and we also have our own unique stories and values to mix in with them. As with most personality questionaires, styles are broken down into 4 categories.  The one I use is called DISC and was originally devised by Dr William M Marston (who was also responsible for the lie detector/polygraph!).  He was a great behaviourist expert and broke down the categories nicely into Drive Influence Steadiness and Compliance.  We all have different blends of these and depending on how high or low each category is, gives us our individual personality.  High D people tend to be very determined and are great at focusing on tasks. High I people tend to be very sociable and generally have great people skills.  High S people are very steady and like harmony and team work.  High C people are generally very compliant and are great with paying attention to detail.  We are all made up of our own individual combinations of these styles. There are no good or bad styles as they all have their own strengths. When I go through this with clients, I explain all the styles and traits covering what the general characteristics & behaviours are, what motivates each style, what each style is afraid of, what environments they prefer to be in, how they prefer to be treated and much more so you can get a great understanding of people in general.  This isn't meant to label anyone or to judge anyone; it's meant to help understand yourself and others similarities and differences. It's a fantastic way to discover yourself and learn from other styles on how you can personally grow in other areas too.  This is also particularly useful if you have a job interview coming up and you need to identify your true strengths either for your CV or an interview. It's also a great way to understand your family, friends or colleagues and how you can get along together (great confidence booster for children to identify their talents & strengths too)! If this is something you might be interested in, please feel free to get in touch to find out more.  I offer sessions for both individuals and groups, so if you would like this for yourself, or your family (starts at age 9), or for a group of friends or for your team, please contact me on (01993) 824993 to find out more. Famous People's DISC styles D - Determined Do-er's are typically people who focus on the task to get what they want.  Simon Cowell is a great example of this (although, he has learnt to adapt his people skills more now than when he first appeared on TV!) I - Influential, outgoing socialisers typically love people and talking. Jonathan Ross is a great example. He's a great talker and likes to be liked. He is also working on his listening skills as often High I's prefer to talk than listen! S - Steady, harmonious team players typically want peace in the world and want everyone to get along.  A great example is Mother Theresa with her wonderful caring nature. C - Compliant, cautious & competent and genius prone! Albert Einstein is a great example. So as you can see all styles have great potential. Styles can also be blended; so for example Richard Branson is a DI - he likes a challenge and he also likes to have fun.  Michael Jackson was an SC, he would keep practising for perfection and would then have a group hug! Lance Armstrong is a DC - very determined to get results and prepared to put in the research to do whatever it takes! Connecting: If you would like to find out more about Life Coaching or if you would like to connect with me via social media, please click on the relevant links below: Email: info@icanlifecoaching.co.uk View my website: www.icanlifecoaching.co.uk Follow my Facebook Page: ICanLifeCoaching Join me on Twitter: @icanlifecoachin Connect with me on LinkedIn: Nicolina Zarola Read my blog: icanlifecoaching.blogspot.co.uk Follow me on Pinterest: icanlifecoachin Tale of two frogs One day a group of frogs were jumping around in the woods when 2 of them fell into a deep pit.  They tried to jump out but couldn't.  When the other frogs saw that they couldn't get out, they kept telling them to give up as they were as good as dead.  To start off with both frogs ignored them and carried on trying to jump out of the pit.  The other frogs told them to stop causing themselves so much pain and to give up and die. Finally, one of the frogs listened to what the rest of the frogs were saying and gave up and died.  But the other frog continued as hard as he could until he finally made it back up. "Didn't you hear us trying to tell you to give up?" asked one of the frogs.  "Sorry I'm hard of hearing and I thought you were encouraging me to keep trying" he replied! 2 morals to this story! Don't listen to people who tell you to give up! Encourage others! Mind your language! I don't mean your P's and Q's! I mean your subconscious language.  Think about how you talk to yourself i.e. "That 'always' happens to me" or "I could 'never' do that".  What are you telling your subconscious mind when you say things like that! Try to think of your subconscious mind as your taxi driver.  It will go where you tell it to go and if you tell it to 'never' go there, it won't! When you make your subconscious thoughts conscious, you become aware of what you are really thinking.  Try it and see. And if you catch yourself using the wrong language, change it!  Try saying something like "I can do that if I put my mind to it" Play around with it so it fits in with you and question your self-doubts. Think of your self doubts as the group of frogs in the tale above and remember "Where there's a will, there's a way".  Sometimes it comes down to the cliché 'Think outside the box'! It's true, make your thoughts conscious and change them to fit in with what you want.  Tell your taxi driver exactly where  you want to go. You get what you focus on! Sharing is caring! If you like this newsletter and feel others would like it too, please feel free to share it by clicking on the links below. They can then choose to subscribe using the link at the bottom if they wish! 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